>This is a special twitter lecture on Husband-Wife relations. (delivered at http://twitter.com/KashifShahzada . Also visit http://kashifshahzada.com/ )
Before understanding husband/wife relations need to understand attributes of man & woman
Fact#1 biologically man and woman are not the same.
Fact#2 Men’s physique is different from a woman’s.
Fact#3 Men grow beards & mustaches, women dont
Fact#4 Women get pregnant, men dont
Fact#5 women give birth, men dont
Fact#6 women get postnatal depression, men dont
Fact#7 women lactate, men dont
Fact#8 women can give undivided attention to child and naturally multi-task at other things, men cant
Fact#9 men’s sexual desire is more than that of women.
Fact#10 men have more strength than women
Fact#11 psychologically as well as physiologically, men & women are not the same. they R different. Its a scientific fact.
I have cited 11 facts proving that man is not equal to woman & vice versa. In their light is the success in marriage.
What is marriage. Union of man & woman agreeing to share life, material possession, emotions and all together.
Key to marital harmony is that both man and woman understand their roles vis a vis their NATURAL construction
Man’s roles should be according to his physique & talents, woman’s roles acc. to her physique & talents.
Man’s role acc to his body is strenous work, aggressive bargaining, hunting for opportunities, & bringing the kill home
Man’s role is to provide, and protect his family. work very hard and bring income home and spend on family.
Women’s role acc to her body is to make home beautiful, also herself beautiful for her husband & properly manage his money
Good husband is one who:
1) works hard & earns good living
2) protects and takes a stand for his family
3) is sexually interested in his wife & is not unfaithful. wife should also beautify and make herself alluring for her man
4) is the teacher of the family. teaches and becomes role model for children & also gives counsel in times of need
Good wife is one who:
1) listens and follows her husband and also gives him advice & consultation but doesnt insult him
2) she does not belittle her husband in the company of others or is disrespectful
3) she does not divulge her husband or family secrets and preserves her family dignity & honour
4) she makes her self sexually available to her husband and considers only one man to be the man in her life ie her husband
5) When the husband comes home tired from the days work, she makes him relax & entertains him
These were some principles of marital harmony. All points are deduced from Holy Qur’an, the Book of Islam.
Takhlees 